Engagement And Marriage Proposal Do's

Happy Bride - Engagement Dos

Do...Propose on Bended Knee. It may be traditional, But every girl wants to be proposed when you're down on one knee.

Do...Have a Ring. Whether it's a 4-carat diamond from Tiffany or a unique sapphire gemstone from a local artisan, be sure you have something to give her when she says yes. Not sure what kind of ring she wants? Propose with a toy ring and enjoy engagement ring shopping together!

Do...Document It. Your marriage proposal story will be one that your grandkids will repeat to their children. Document the moment so you can re-live that special time in your lives forever, and even use as part of your engagement party or wedding. Hire a professional videographer and photographer or have a friend hide paparazzi-style with a flipcam or iPhone on record. Want something lower-tech? Keep it simple by jotting down both of your reactions and thoughts in a special journal.

Do...Make it a Surprise. No amazing proposal starts with the words "I knew it was coming." Find a way to take her by surprise. If you're not Mister Romance, inviting her to a romantic weekend will be a dead giveaway. Consider leveraging the help of an accomplice who will distract her or propose on a day that she will never be expecting it.

Do...Think about the Marriage Proposal Aftermath. Getting engaged on a regular Tuesday morning as you're snuggling in bed sounds like a great way to propose. That is, until you both have to jump in the shower, skip breakfast and are late for your morning work meeting. Consider the "aftermath" of your marriage proposal: if you're proposing in another country, will you be able to call friends & family or will your cellphone bill be astronomical because of roaming costs? If you're popping the question on a Thursday, will an early work project prevent you from celebrating? Being able to bask in the glow of being engaged is a key part to a dream marriage proposal.

Do...make it HER dream marriage proposal. Focus on making this moment something that is a dream come true for her. Make a list of things that she loves and brainstorm a way to include some or all of these in your marriage proposal. Inspiration can come from her favorite movie, song or favorite memories. Incorporate those elements with the five senses and you'll design her dream marriage proposal.

Engagement and Marriage Proposal Don'ts

Engagement Don'ts - Sad bride

Don't...Be a blabber mouth. Loose lips sink ships and it's absolutely true when it comes to marriage proposal planning. Keep everyone involved in your engagement on a "need to know" basis. If they do not NEED to know, then do not tell them. This goes for limo drivers, florists, musicians, etc. This also applies to friends and family too. Many proposal surprises have been ruined by a well-meaning friend or parent slipping up.

Don't...Be a Cliche. Proposing during a fancy dinner is THE most cliched way to pop the question. A ring in her glass of champagne, having it brought to the table during the dessert course or generic ideas like that are generic and impersonal. Focus on creating a marriage proposal idea that reflects you as a couple. Although you should be wary of cliched proposal packages in general, here are some of the more creative proposal packages we've seen.

Don't...Ramble. When It comes to the words you plan to say as you're down on one knee, keep it simple. Even the most calm & collected men will be tremendously nervous and emotional, rendering almost any prepared speech completely useless. If you feel strongly that you want to say something specific, write it down and read it to her like a love letter.



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